Subj: How Gaming LESS in Texts Will Improve Your Meet-up Rates
Phone game was the bane of my existence for a long time. Getting numbers was easy, but texting girls and getting them out on dates was one of my biggest and longest lasting sticking points.
I’ve learned a number of different phone game strategies over the years. Some people recommend sending one text, then calling her as soon as she responds. Some recommend having hour long text conversations to build comfort before asking her out. While still others recommend not texting at all, but instead picking up the phone and calling the girl.
All of these strategies have their merits, and I believe they work for those who teach them, but even after months and years of trying every texting strategy I could find, nothing worked for me on a consistent basis. That’s why I set out to create my own texting system. After a lot of trial and error, analyzing set after set, and text conversation after text conversation, I have finally come up with something that works. So if you’ve been having trouble with text game or getting girls out on dates after getting their numbers, give this strategy a try. It has worked for me and hopefully it will work for you as well.
What I’ve found is that it’s next to impossible to build attraction over text. Because of this, all the attraction she’s going to feel towards you will be from your initial interaction with her. Therefore the first step towards good phone game is making sure your initial interactions are solid. Maxing out your presence, identity, and social skills will improve your meet-up rates more effectively than any phone game strategy ever could.
This isn’t to say you shouldn’t game over text though… You should. But what I’ve found is that only a minimal amount should be used, and only to serve a very specific purpose. That purpose is to act as a state break. To take her out of whatever routine she’s in when you send her the text and put her back in the fun state of mind she was in when you originally got her number.
Once you’ve broken her state, don’t game any more. There’s no need and it won’t do any good. In fact, it might actually hurt you. That’s because it’s very hard to gain attraction through text, but it’s very easy to lose it. Long text conversations give you more opportunity to either bore her, or come off as weird or needy. Many times this won’t even be your fault. Sometimes things just come off differently over text than they do in real life. Either way, long text conversations in general can’t help you. They can only hurt you.
So after you’ve used a bit of game to break her state, simply ask what she’s up to that night and see if she wants to get together if she’s free.
Here’s a real life example of this “Touch of Game” strategy from a date I had last week.
Me: Is it too early for casual text? ;) -Ethan
Her: Haha. Better than never ;)
Me: Ya sorry. I know you were probably waiting by the phone day after day for my call. Im just glad I got to you before you started making voodoo dolls of me or something.
Her: Oh actually you might want to watch out b/c I made a voodoo doll with your name on it – since I have no life—jkjk!
Me: So im not accusing you or anything, but I was lying in bed last night and I got this funny feeling like someone was making out with me through the astral plane…
Me: So what are you up to tonight?
Her: Babysitting until 4 or 5
Me: Ok. You wanna meet up in ********* later on tonight.
Her: Sure – where?
Me: Lets meet in front of ******** around 8.
Her: Okay sounds good.
Me: Ok. See you then.
Now this may look like very basic game (and it is) but it works. Just follow the system. Send an opening text, use a touch of game to break her state, then immediately set up a date.
I should also note that these days I’ve been texting girls on the same night that I want to meet up with them rather than a few days before. This small change has also significantly improved my meet-up rates. This may sound counter-intuitive to some guys. You would think that texting girls a few days before you wanted to get together would be beneficial as it’s less likely that she’s already made other plans. This thinking expertly illustrates one of the differences in the ways that men and women think.
Men are calculating and practical. Logically it makes sense to ask someone to hang out earlier rather than later because there is less of a chance that the other person is already busy. However women are more emotionally driven in their decision making. They will often make decisions based on how they feel in the moment. Meaning that even if you set up a date earlier in the week, when the day of the meet-up actually rolls around, she’s not in the same emotional state as she was before and she’ll be more likely to flake.
Because of this, even if you followed the Touch of Game model earlier in the week, you’d just have to do the whole thing over again once the day of the meet-up came. So just text her the same day.
Test this strategy out. I think you’ll be surprised with the results. Leave a comment below and let me know what you think.
Until next time,